Why does everyone treat A.D.D like a joke? Or like it’s not a big deal? Because it fucking is and people need to be more aware of the struggles and self loathing that people with the disorder face.
I see all this other shit about people recognizing other disorders or mental…
So true and I can’t even remember them all.
This is a GREAT idea for ADHD children.
Today, they’re repaving the street outside of my house so cars can’t be parked today and tomorrow from 8-4. I didn’t think it would be a problem since I leave at 7:40ish to go to work.
I forgot to set my alarm.
My roommate woke me up to tell me to move my car. It was 8:34 AM.
This is the second time I forgot to set my alarm for work.
Last time, I went in at 9 AM because of it but this time, I’m calling in sick because I’m too fucking embarrassed to tell them I forgot. Again.
I wanted to talk a bit about what I’ve been doing to better cope with my ADHD. Because while the medication has been super helpful in kickstarting my ability to actually DO things, it’s not a panacea. I still have to figure out ways to provide myself with structure.
This is my domestic magnetic white board (I’m going to get a second one for the home office for professional stuff) I got it for like $20 at Costco, complete with the hanging hardware, magnets, markers and eraser.
I know it looks overwhelming at the moment but here’s how it works:
Everything is color coded. The green is food I want to make for the week. The red is chores and other stuff I have to do like email my landlord and pay bills. The blue is my grocery list. Purple is a shopping list for stuff I can’t get at the grocery store, at the moment it’s stuff I want to get at Costco when I go later this week. Black is random things I want to tell my roommates or notes to self. Orange is usually doodling.
Whenever I realize I need something, or need to do something, or need to remember something, I write it down on the white board in the corresponding color. When I go to the store, I take a pic of the list with the camera on my phone and erase the list. When I complete a chore or make a meal, I erase that thing from the board.
By Friday or Saturday this board is almost entirely blank. Sunday morning is when I plan my meals for the week, my grocery shopping list, and whatever special chores or tasks I want to do for the week. That’s why it’s full right now.
This works for me because it’s in a central location and it’s right on the wall. I don’t have to dig for it. I pass it every time I go to the fridge or the pantry or the stove. The markers and the eraser are magnetic so they stick to the board. I know I respond really well to color coding, I always have. This routine has proven really effective, which is why I’m getting a second one and putting it in my office so I can keep track of the various professional tasks I want to do.
Also, because my professional tasks tend to also look more long-term than one week ahead, I plan to get a desk calendar and hang it on the wall. You can get those for as little as $5, hang it up with thumb tacks, and color code with markers. I used that method in college to keep track of due dates and exam dates and performance dates for various classes, etc. and it was really effective which is why I plan to do it again.
I like to-do lists but I tend to lose them bc they aren’t in a fixed place. Also I like erasing things better than crossing them off.
Anyway, just thought I’d share in case anybody might find this method useful or it might inspire somebody to develop their own method.
Don’t get too close to me when you say that bullshit “try harder” phrase because I’m trying my damn hardest already.